What If Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds
Jennifer Boxwell RN
“THE TRUTH ABOUT HEALING: WHAT IFTIME DOESN’T HEAL ALL WOUNDS?”
” The saying “Time heals all wounds” is an ancient proverb that has been passed down through various cultures and languages. Its exact origin is unclear, but it reflects a common belief that, with the passage of time, emotional and physical pain tends to lessen. The phrase has been widely quoted and paraphrased over centuries, often used to console those going through difficult times by suggesting that the pain or sorrow will eventually diminish. While some people find comfort in this idea, others argue that time alone does not heal wounds; rather, healing often involves active processing, acceptance, and sometimes professional support.”
WHEN GETTING OUT OF BED FEELS IMPOSSIBLE:FINDING HOPE IN SMALL STEPS
Before we can even begin to heal, it’s essential to recognize and accept our pain. You might have tried to ignore it, to push it away, or to bury it deep down, but unresolved pain has a way of resurfacing. Healing doesn’t happen by pretending the pain isn’t there. It happens by acknowledging it, sitting with it, and, ultimately, working through it. So, how do we start this journey when it’s hard even to get out of bed? How do we make each day feel less daunting when we’re burdened with wounds that time alone hasn’t healed?
START SMALL: THE POWER OF TINY VICTORIES
The first step is to embrace the power of small victories. It might sound trivial, but the act of getting out of bed, brushing your teeth, or even sitting by a window to let the sunlight in can be a profound act of courage. These small acts, though they may seem insignificant, are moments of strength and resilience. Each one is a tiny
statement to the world: “I am here, and I am trying.” Ask yourself: What small action can I take today that would feel like a win? Maybe it’s simply drinking a glass of water, texting a friend, or taking a deep breath. Each tiny victory is a step forward, a testament to your ability to keep going even when it’s hard.
FINDING CONNECTION: REACHING OUT IN THE DARK
When we’re struggling, it’s easy to feel alone, as if no one could possibly understand the depths of our pain. But the truth is, there are people who care and who want to help. Reaching out to someone—a friend, a family member, or even a support group—can create a bridge to connection. It doesn’t have to be a profound conversation. Sometimes, just letting someone know you’re struggling can lift a small part of the burden.
If reaching out feels too hard, consider this: Is there someone who has reached out to you in the past, someone who would be there if you let them know you needed them? Even the act of sending a message or making a quick call can be a lifeline.
We often treat ourselves more harshly than we’d ever treat a loved one. Think about it: if a friend told you they couldn’t face the day, would you criticize them, or would you extend compassion and understanding? Why not offer yourself the same kindness? Self-compassion means recognizing that it’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay not to have it all together. It’s about allowing yourself to feel what you feel without judgment.
When you’re facing a tough day, try asking: What would I say to a friend who was feeling this way? Often, the answer to this question can help you find the words you need to hear yourself.
Embracing Mindfulness in the Present Moment
Sometimes, the pain of past wounds and the worry about the future can cloud our ability to experience the present. When we’re overwhelmed, our thoughts can spiral, leaving us stuck in a loop of fear and anxiety. In these moments, grounding yourself in the present can be a refuge. Mindfulness isn’t about pushing the pain away; it’s about acknowledging it without letting it consume you.
Take a few moments to breathe. Feel the ground beneath your feet. Notice the sounds around you. Engage with your senses, and let yourself just be. It’s okay if the pain doesn’t go away immediately. What matters is that you’re giving yourself a moment of peace amidst the storm.
Finding Strength in Resilience
One of the principles of Great to MAGNUS is the idea of resilience—not just bouncing back, but bouncing forward. Resilience isn’t about pretending you’re okay or forcing yourself to move on. It’s about finding ways to adapt, to grow, and to rediscover hope. It’s about holding on to the belief that you can make it through, one step at a time.
Consider what resilience means to you. Is it the strength to face each day, even when it feels impossible? Is it finding meaning in your experiences, or is it simply the act of enduring? Reflect on your own resilience, and remember that every day you’ve made it through has been a testament to your strength.
A Glimmer of Hope: Moving Forward at Your Own Pace
Healing isn’t linear, and there’s no right way to cope. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s okay. It’s okay to move at your own pace, to take breaks, and to let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. Remember that you are not defined by your struggles; you are defined by the courage it takes to face them.
Each day is a new chance to start again. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to move mountains. All you need to do is take one step, then another, and then another. In time, those steps will add up. And one day, you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come.
So today, give yourself permission to move slowly, to celebrate each small victory, and to reach out for help when you need it. Healing is a journey, not a destination. And on this journey, you are not alone. You are braver than you know, and more resilient than you realize. Each day you face is proof of that courage. And as long as you keep taking one step forward, there is hope.